Fate and Prophecy
In a Tarot deck, the card "Death" doesn't mean actual death. It means change. It means a significant shift in the current way things are. It isn't the end of anything, but a brand new beginning.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross observed five psychological stages terminally ill patients go through upon learning of their fate: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance.
I think those five stages apply not only to people facing their own physical death, but also to people facing death in the sense of the tarot card.
The denial was frustrating, the anger expected. The anger will probably underscore the rest of the stages. Bargaining was incredibly difficult, and I almost buckled, but now the depression is breaking my heart. I hope it will pass soon.
Please, please, please, Acceptance, come soon. I don't know how much more I can take.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross observed five psychological stages terminally ill patients go through upon learning of their fate: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance.
I think those five stages apply not only to people facing their own physical death, but also to people facing death in the sense of the tarot card.
The denial was frustrating, the anger expected. The anger will probably underscore the rest of the stages. Bargaining was incredibly difficult, and I almost buckled, but now the depression is breaking my heart. I hope it will pass soon.
Please, please, please, Acceptance, come soon. I don't know how much more I can take.
posted by Grover at 2/07/2005 08:36:00 AM
7 Comments:
i got the death card the FIRST time i got my reading done. i almost jumped up and ran (yea, like i can RUN from death) , but then "ohh....CHANGE."
damn, what a way to scare me...
make it a point to remind yourself WHY you are done and why its going to be good to leave. Don't let the other stuff break your resolve. It's never easy and it can take a long time, but part of breaking up is all of this. Just hold your ground.
-Chickpea
Acceptance, more than any of the other stages tends to take a long time to reach, and either comes on like a snap of lightning or happens without you realising it and you suddenly find yourself there.
How long it will take is a mystery, time moves at its own pace.
With time comes acceptance. You're just in a really tough situation because you can't truly leave or kick anyone out. Hopefully you at least are able to sleep on the couch or in a guest room to make an area outside of the bedroom your own. Until the true split, yesterday will dangle in your face and try to block out the future.
I too got the Death card right before I moved from Denver. Little did I know it would also mean life.
Happiness patiently waits.
I think you should give your wife a chance. She has been through a very rough patch lately with everything that has happened (and has not been explained to others.). She is trying to work on things but she needs the time and space and love to help her. (She has been lonely for quite awhile and misses you desperately.) She needs you to try to understand and give her the chance she has been making numerous steps towards. It does no good to portray her like a terrible person to others because she has forgiven you and herself, and will continue to love you are care for you, no matter how you make her seem to others. They don't know her or her situation, therefore there are 2 sides to every story. They don't live your life or have a part in your relationship. Plese respect her and don't trash her to others as she would never do so to you. She will always love you with all her heart.
Anonymous,
Yes, there are two sides to every story and I think everyone that reads this blog is intelligent enough to realize that. We hear Andy's side because this is his journal, a safe place for him to vent his feelings and air his thoughts.
Caroline,
Welcome, although I have to admit it is rather surprising to me seeing you here. Have you read Andy's journal for long?
I know this is a trying time for you both and I hope you are both able to stretch your necks above the hurt and anger and see the big picture.
Your kitty Cozy is adorable, I must say.
Perhaps you should begin your own online journal.
I'll echo what TG has said and add that I don't think Andy has actually rubbished anyone. [Other than himself, invalidly, when he has been down.]
Don't think I've seen him say a nasty word about anyone he knows. He has criticised some decisions, and showed that he is restless, but has also shown love and care.
People in our modern world would do well to know that just because the waters are rough does not mean anyone has to drown. Love is buoyant, hold on to it.
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